I have posted before on myspace how sad it was that they were not only leaving home and their mom but they were leaving each other. I posted before how sad it was that they were judged for being twins. Twins is not about having "your own personality". It is not about "finding your own identity". It is about love. A love that most of us do not understand and may never share, but many judge and critic. I continuously hear how it is great they did not go to the same college; it is great they have there own life. I wonder who these people think my girls are. As I have said before they have shared more than most husbands and wives share without intimacy. Their committment to each other runs deeper than a marriage, there is no divorce, there is no not working things out. I admire their love and respect for each other. But I feel sad they have to prove themselves and overcome the sterotypes of twins. I heard a friend recently retell a story from Trading Spaces about how ridiculous it was that a set of twins married and lived a house apart and their decor was nearly identical. I listen but I don't see the problem. There are two women with identical DNA and identical taste living next to each and sharing their lives together. Before our times all homes were the same in a neighboorhood. Families did not just live one house away, they lived in the same house. My mother grew up in a neighborhood with her aunt and cousins across the street and another aunt and cousins down the street. Even now in Lyncourt, families live a house away, a street away maybe a block a way, but they live in the same area. Yet, these two women are ridiculed because they are twins and others feel they need to get their "own" life and their "own" identity. You can say yeah, but, this was extreme. Who says? Us? Twins are under a lot of pressure. I used to have to buy two different color tops for each of the girls when they both really only liked the red. But if they both wore the red the gossip would start. And not just kid gossip. Adults would question why they have to wear the same color or the same outfit. So there were arguements because they both wanted to wear it the same day. Who would have thought two girls with identical DNA would get the notion to wear the same top on the same day? I would buy another red top to keep the peace - right. The next arguement is that one would get out of the shower and the other would have the red top on. Now even thought there are two red tops, can they really wear the same top without the comments and judgenments - heck no. This is the game twins play. They deny themselves so others see them as individuals. I have watched this for 18 and it is sad. At my age, I say wear the red top, who cares. I get to wear what I want and if someone elses has it on we think it is cool. But at their ages they are self conscience and they know how critical others are. To those married twin women next door to each other, I say, Enjoy your home your way, forget everyone else, enjoy each other and continue to live in love. I have a wonderful family and great friends. Yet, without thinking about it they fall into sterotyping my girls. With God these issues are easier to overcome. I pray my girls have the self confidence and the faith in God to go to college where they want and live where they want and wear what they want, even if that means they are side by side doing it.
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